I didn’t know what to expect when I picked up Christine Cain’s book Unashamed last summer. It was the first book by her that I had read. It came highly recommended, first by an online book club I was part of; second by a good friend of mine who was participating in that group.
I ended up reading it after the book club study ended, taking it with me on a trip to the Northwest in the early fall. When I arrived back home, I couldn’t find the book. I had read about a third of the way through it, and was eager to finish, but apparently I had left it behind somewhere. I called my sister, but it wasn’t at her house. I couldn’t think of where I might have misplaced it. A few weeks later, I got a text from my sister-in-law asking if I had left a book at her house. She had found it hiding beneath her bed, where I had slept when I visited with her. She said she’d return it—as soon as she had finished reading it!
It came with our Christmas card from her in December. I was so happy to get it, but I was immersed in a few other weighty tomes that were taking up my time. So I finally got to finish it this month!
When reviewing a book, one is supposed to give dislikes, likes, quotes, summaries, and finally a recommendation. In light of that format, I can honestly say there isn’t anything I didn’t like about this book.
Christine’s conversational style was easy to read, even though her subject was a difficult one to broach. Her real (and often raw) discussion of her own battle with shame and its causes in her life allowed this reader to open up to the recognition of remnant pockets of shame in my own life, even though this is not my first, second, or even third contemplation of that subject on my own healing journey.
As Christine shares her story she helps the reader realize that he/she is not alone in this struggle. There are others on the journey who can be of help to us, and as much as this that there is ONE who knows the journey of shame well and who beat shame once and for all. She reminds the reader that shame is a liar and a killer. A killer of dreams and thus destinies; a liar that says loudly and persistently that we are not good enough, that our pain is too great, that NO ONE will understand. She refutes this lie with the absolute truth of God’s love, and the goodness of the Divine plan for each of our lives. She let’s us know that it’s not only O.K. to stop hiding, but that it is time to stop hiding and get free from shame so we can grab our destiny with both hands and fulfill it. She tells us that shame loses its power when we stop letting it be a secret.
Here is my favorite quote from the book:
My recommendation? If you’re stuck and you don’t know why, or you have a secret that is holding you back, or you suspect shame (and its consequences) might be that hidden obstacle you need to address, read this book. If your life isn’t where you want or what you want, this book is for you. Maybe you’ve already battled shame and won some and lost some. This book can bring the courage to keep battling until you win. Maybe you’re afraid God views you the way shame tells you He does. The truth in this book, that God LOVES you, and views you as priceless and NOT shameful, can set you free.